A method and program product for handling communications with stations in communications systems, especially digital telecommunications systems, such as for VoIP telephony. Requests are received for communicating with communications stations in the communications system. Each request is forwarded to a respective communications system station, which returns an indication of an intended response. Depending upon whether the intended response is appropriate, the proposed response may be forwarded to the requester. Otherwise, if the intended response is determined inappropriate, an indication is returned to the communications system station that the intended response is inappropriate.